Thread: What's the skill you struggle with most?

It's motivation for me. My current job has no true growth and expansion opportunities. I"m looking for a new one constantly. I do twice the work with better quality as the others in my department, but at the end of the day, my boss has 'old school' mind set of, " You need to put in your due time to move up".

The only way I get through it right now; I have an interview being set-up (new company), it pays the bills, my immediate supervisor is realistic on my work, I have a company car for travel and make my own schedule and work hours.

being too nice/not laying down the law when need be.

I have confrontation issues, but I have gotten a lot better with confronting by setting personal goals. Not much else I can do :/

I have to agree with the trusting situation. I have yet to meet someone who is as enthusiastic and passionate as I am about my projects and plans. Its so easy to get someone onboard and then have them fade out over a few months if not weeks.

I try to work on my own now and keep my ideas to myself because at the end of the day, I know that if something went wrong or wasn't done right, its no one else's fault but mine. My racing career works in the same way, if something on my car fails I don't want to have to blame anyone but myself.

I stutter and lose focus of what I'm trying to say. It sounds stupid but I have to concentrate quite a bit to say something succinctly and concisely instead of blabbering - especially when giving out instructions in the work place.

Should I just say: file these invoices? Or provide a reason? Of course I have 20/20 hindsight and realize I give out far too much unneeded information.

I also suck at public speaking - I choke up. I'm not all that nervous about it, but I wish I could sound more convincing and in command.

Originally Posted by Fashion Cat

I also suck at public speaking - I choke up. I'm not all that nervous about it, but I wish I could sound more convincing and in command.

My problem is if I'm not getting feedback or nods from the audience, I get the hint that they don't understand so I start detailing and "dumbing down" more and end up rambling. Small gatherings are fine, but big crowds I lose it. I gave a speech one time where a woman came to me afterward with questions she jotted down in her notes of my presentation. My goodness I wanted to hug her so much! We talked for about four hours afterward and now she's my best friend.

I would have to say that one of my biggest issues that I am working through right now is learning to ask for help. I am working to be willing to admit that I don't know it all nor do I need to do everything. Funny thing is I work to surround myself with amazing friends who possess qualities that I admire and then struggle with issues that they would be uniquely capable of helping with. I am doing everything I can to change this, one small step/victory at a time.

Oh and to any and everyone who is saying motivation, follow through or procrastination are the items that they struggle the most with- Please, please read this book- Eat That Frog by Brian Tracy. If you read it with an open mind it WILL change your life. One of the top 5 books that I have ever read on personal success and happiness. Only thing that I changed from the book is I no longer ask what the ugliest frog is to eat, I ask what the best Ferrari is to drive. It will make sense if you read the book.

Ryan

I'm a perfectionist.

So when I'm designing things its actually really hard for me to sit back and say... That'll do fine...

Example... I'm designing a interface for my Iphone application at the moment... I've already done over 100 screens just for 1 summary screen.

Stressing, and trying to figure out customer patterns. (times of the year, weather, tax season, etc)

When its busy, its crazy, when its slow, its too slow.

My wife always reminds me to relax, because I earn more then anyone I know in my age bracket when the end of the year averages out, but in the 2.5ish slow months of the year (feb to mid april) I only get a handful of customers in a day. I stress feeling like I could be doing so much more with my time instead of waiting for the phone to ring.

Don't get my wrong, even in the slow months, I still do well (better then my best friend who is a doctor) so maybe its just a matter with staying content. To me, I don't love money. It could all be gone and I'd be ok, its just a way of keeping score. Business is a big game, and I love IT, not money.

I'm way too nice and tolerant, not cut throat enough. Definitely something to work on.

may sound odd but mine is finishing something.... My ADD and high IQ make it difficult to do something that is not challenging. When I finish the hard parts and construction of a project, I get bored and almost never finish. Not sure how to explain this. I did my homework in school but almost never turned it in......